Couples that do sharing or 3somes, your advice please

[azbigguy]

My wife and I have been married 10 years. She was a virgin and I am the only man she has been with. We have talked about having a 3-some, or just meeting a guy or gal and me watching her. We talked about going to the clubs in Phoenix, just to watch and look around, and have even talked (well,I have) couples online. In bed, when we have sex, she is cool and gets a little freaky talking about having sex with other men, and has even laid out a little scenario, but when we talk about it outside the bedroom....she is a flat out, never going to happen.
Now, I will not force the issue, b/c I want to be married to her for many more decades. We don't drink or use other chemicals, I would never try to trick her. Do I try any other way to broach the subject, is there some clever arguement out there that will get her to change her mind....couples, any of you like that at first and then crossed over to the "dark side?" I read a lot of post and looked around, and most everything I have seen was either based on inhibitions being lowered by drinking, or the wife already had a proclivity for other men, or was sexually active before hubby, so being with another man wasn't a scary thing...but I know out there somewhere, hopefully here, is a couple with a simlar story to what I laid out, and made it happen.

Or, do I just call it a day on asking or talking about making it a real thing and enjoy the fantasy bedroom talk and leave it there?

thanks to any and all who read or respond.
John

[xocpls]

We have been fantasizing a lot ourselves. Just chatting with people online so far.

[dawnie]

From our experience it is almost natural how it happens, just gauge her attention on other guys or women when you guys are out and meet that person for more privacy and if the chemistry is there it should flow.

[asianandwhiteswinger]

not to sound like a dick, but you sound pretty fucked

[sexydelraycpl]

It is not about drinking or not drinking, it's about her flipping that switch. Your wife gets off on the fantasy of sharing now, that may be as far as she is comfortable with. At some point she may make the decision to try it out for real, but it will happen only when she is ready in her head. She may decide not to, push it and it always ends up ugly. Trust me when she finally makes that call, it is worth it. Play the bar game, go out seperately to the same bar, pick her up and play like you are just hooking up, use different names, go to a hotel after last call. Theres are ways to make it more real, that may get her more excited about going there for real.

[milflover]

Did you manage to work this out? I am in town till Thursday if you guys want to try and play...